I like a boy but I am shy and scared of rejection. What do I do?

Hi, and thanks for writing to us!

First, it’s normal to feel embarrassed or unsure around someone you like, especially when you’re worried about being rejected. A lot of people act the same way when they have a crush.

Secondly, the fact that he turned red when you said you liked him could definitely be a sign of interest! At the same time, it could mean that he was just a bit surprised or felt shy in the moment. Since you then said it was a joke, he might not fully understand how you actually feel.

Therefore it might be a good idea to flirt more clearly so he can pick up on your feelings. You mentioned that you want him to know that you think he’s cute, so it could be a good idea to show some more interest!

Here are some “lowkey” ways to flirt, since you mentioned you’re feeling a bit “embarrassed” around him:

- Smile at him a bit more than you usually do, and try to hold eye contact for a bit longer than what feels «normal»

-Give small compliments (could be about something he said or what he is wearing)

-Find little reasons to talk to him (school, mutual friends etc.)

-Laugh at his jokes and show that you enjoy being around him

-Light teasing can also be a way to flirt, as long as it is kind and playful!

-Sit or stand a bit closer to him when you can (for example when your are talking to one another)

-Ask him questions about his interests to show that you care

Of course you don’t have to do all these. Showing slightly more interest than you usually do is a good thing! And if it does not go as hoped, remember that everyone gets rejected every now and then!

I wish you the best of luck!

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