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I feel like he is using me, and I don't get anything in return.

Gutt, 16

I've been friends with this guy for about a year and idk if I should keep it going or end it. he's 3 years older than me so when we first met I was 15 and he was 18 now I'm 16 and he's 19, he has a game he's working on and I've helped him with some scripting/coding for the game since he'd asked if I could help him out and it sorta became a thing... he would ask me for help or ask for favors such as "can you give me feedback on this?" or "can you draw something for me?" I've prob spent over 40+ hours drawing for him and 2-4 days scripting/coding. He'd also ask me to remind him of things or give him motivation. despite all I did I never got anything in return. And recently he had been accused of something which wasn't true at all... I tried to comfort him, I was there for him and all that, but he never does these things to me... if I'm dry he'll leave and end the call. I do more for him than he does for me and yes I have talked to him about all this, but he doesn't change. pls help...

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Hi,

Thanks for contacting us in ung.no. when you have questions.

It could sound as he is using you a bit. Friends shouldn't have to keep scores for how much one is helping the other, but it should go both ways.

Can you talk to him about it. Tell him how you feel, and see if he recognizes your feelings?

If you are very dissatisfied with the relationship, you should tell him and then maybe withdraw yourself and not see him so much.

It is up to you. Do you appreciate the relationship so much that you can tolerate than he uses you to the things you are good at, or is it too much for you?

Can you talk to an adult about it? The school nurse for instance? It helps to talk about stuff that's on your mind.

I wish you the best of luck.

Best regards

helsesykepleier

Besvart: 16.10.2024

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