Does it hurt to have sex for the first time?

Hello.

I`m sorry that my english is not the best. I hope you do understand the text below here.

If the boy is uncircumcised and it`s too tight, the boy may feel pain during the intercourse. It can help to use a condom.

It can hurt to have sex for the first time, but mostly on behalf of the girl.

Both have to be sexually aroused. Then the penis is blood filled, sensitive and hard and the vagina is wet and extended. The clitoris will also be blood filled and sensitive, just not as hard as the penis (it does not need to be that hard).

For girls it`s not so easy to get sexually aroused due to just intercourse/the penis in the vagina. 70 percent of all girls does not have an orgasm only by intercourse. The easiest way to have an orgasm is by stimulation of the outer clitoris. The outer clitoris has 8000 sensitive nerves. There are few sensitive nerves in the vagina.

If the girl isn`t sexually aroused the vagina is dry and cramped. If they get the penis inside the vagina, the friction from the penis can cause small wounds that can also bleed. It becomes like blisters inside the vagina that hurts.

If the girl is sexually aroused the vagina is wet and extended and there will be room for the penis in the vagina. The vagina has an ability to extend a lot. Just think about that a baby can come out this way.

The vagina isn`t going straight up as many think it does. The vagina goes a little up, then backwards, in approximately 45 degrees angel. You can see a drawing of the vagina on this page. The penis goes a little inside, then backwards.

The vagina is only 7 to 10 centimeters long. The vagina expands a little when the girl is sexually aroused. If the penis is long, it is not possible to get all of it into the vagina. The boy cannot thrust his penis hard into the vagina. That will hurt.

Instead of going straight to the intercourse it might be better to learn how to stimulate each other`s sexes to orgasms with a hand around the penis and a fingertip to stimulate the outer clitoris, or with their mouths, if they do like/want that.

Talk with your partner. Say what you like and what you don`t like. Ask her what she likes and doesn`t like. It´s also important that you tell each other what you do not want to do, where your boundaries are.

Jeg håper dette er til hjelp for deg og jeg ønsker deg alt godt!

Hilsen spesialist i sexologisk rådgivning (NACS), ung.no